Stories, stories, stories, stories, stories – I am full to bursting with stories – mine and everyone else’s – yet I reach for time to write them down and come up empty. I need to decide about Sunday, Mother’s Day. I browse the world wide web in the fifteen minutes I have to spare this week, and discover this fabulously scathing perspective from Liz at Rebellious Magazine, a recent cast-mate of mine in the Listen to Your Mother show. Mother’s Day is complicated for so many of the people I love.
Here is what will make me happy this Mother’s Day. Most of it, you won’t find on any shelf:
- Listen to what I say. Offer me love, warmth, food, and kind words.
- Do not rush me out the door.
- Do not try to persuade me into seeing things only from your point of view.
- Share your truth. Yours. Tell me it is yours. Own it. Understand that my truth may mirror yours. Or it may not.
- Do not force me into too-small spaces.
- Defend me to people who wish to attack.
- Offer to be strong. Leave room for me to be strong, too.
- Hear me – not only my words, but my gestures and the feeling behind them, too.
- Hot coffee. Good strong hot coffee. Stand-your-spoon-in-it coffee. Drinking this coffee with sunlight streaming across my face.
- A pen, paper, and a place to write – even if only for 3 minutes. Or 5.
- Hugs. As many as possible, please.
- A finished basement.
- One thing sometime in the day to organize or make right – laundry to fold, dishes to wash, boxes to stack – something with a beginning, a middle and an end. So I can feel satisfied when I’m through. Yes, it’s Mother’s Day and it’s my choice to feel a sense of completion.
- Fresh air. Trees. A walk in the woods.
- Food. Real food – like eggs, granola, yogurt, fresh fruit, soup, or spinach.
- Bedtime with my not-so-little girl. One-on-on time with a book or a journal. Or a foot massage.
- Belly laughs.
- Time away from electronics.
- Hearing your story. Hearing you tell it. From any angle. Whether or not it’s about moms.
And you? What would really float your boat this Mother’s Day?